America’s descending transformation into a matriarchal society has served the sodomite cause well. Women’s “liberation,” as promoted by Hollywood, politicians, academia, and the ever-accommodating news media, has basically turned men into sissies and cowards. True manly influence in the home has become a rarity, indeed. Millions of homes with fathers have wimpy fathers at best, and a great many homes have no father figure at all. Others are men in the deer stand, in the duck blind, in the bass boat, at the ball park, and sometimes at the bar, but their wives won’t let them be men in the home. His language is too crude and offensive, he’s too rugged and rough with the boys, he clowns around too much with the kids, his sarcasm might be misunderstood, he’s too judgmental of others, etc. So, he reserves his manhood for people other than his family. BIG mistake.
Meanwhile, in an effort to “have it all” and “be it all,” the women have ceased to be the godly and modest Christian ladies that God called them to be. Consequently, Satan has turned the average American family into a mutated mess. Both boys and girls are being cheated by the sorry example of their own parents. This tragic truth must be acknowledged and corrected by any serious Christian family that intends to train up godly young men and ladies. I’ll give you three pieces of advice. If you will follow this advice, you will be helped, and your chances of training up proper young men and women will increase tremendously.
First, fathers must rule the home. Ephesians 5:21-25 is clear about this: “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” Many preachers who preach on this subject today (KJV, independent, Baptists included) will give you verse 22 (“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord”), only to water it down by incorrectly following with verse 21: “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.”) It usually goes something like this: “You know, all the men like verse 22 where Paul tells wives to submit to their husbands, but they conveniently skip verse 21 where it says that they both should submit to one another!”
Those are the words of a sissy preacher who lacks the courage to preach to the women and wimpy men of his church. He thinks that verse 21 gives him an escape, so he pretends that marriage is a loving partnership where the man submits to the woman just as the woman submits to the man. This is dangerous heresy of the first order. Ephesians 5:21 is the opening statement. Then verses 22-25 are Paul’s explanation of how both parties are to obey verse 21. The woman obeys by submitting to the man, as unto the Lord (which is why the word “submit” is repeated for her, and which is why the “submitting yourselves one to another” is not used in the companion passage in Colossians 3:18-21). The man submits by not being a proud, selfish, abusive jerk, but rather a loving husband who protects and provides. He doesn’t submit by obeying the wife; he submits by denying self and putting the wife and children first. We know this is correct because the analogy is to Christ’s relationship to the church. Does anyone seriously think that Christ submits to the church in the same manner as the church submits to Him? Men must take charge of their families and start ruling their homes, both practically and spiritually. From the heart, there must be a deep-rooted conviction that says, “as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.” (Joshua. 24:15)
That brings up the second point. No man will become a manly man of God just because the wife wants him to do so or allows him to do so. He must have conviction from the heart, else all will be in vain. Regardless of who is reading this, man or woman, please get this loud and clear: your family MUST be active, involved, zealous members of a King James, Bible-believing, independent, Baptist church with a manly preacher in the pulpit. You might have to drive two hours one way in order to find such a church, but your family needs it desperately. And don’t cut corners and play make-believe with your church choice. The church might or might not have a youth program or a choir, and it might meet in a storefront with only twenty members, but it MUST have a doctrinally straight, wise, holy, authoritative MAN of God in the pulpit. In time, that will work wonders for your family as the father grows stronger and forms stronger Biblical convictions.
If you are a lady reading this, please don’t underestimate the above point. You can’t make your husband a better man for the simple reason that you aren’t a man. Your family must be under manly, authoritative, preaching and teaching constantly. In addition to helping you and your husband spiritually, your sons will see righteous manhood displayed regularly (even if there’s no father figure in the home), and your daughters will see what they need to be looking for in a man from a Biblical standpoint. Do not compromise when choosing a church. If you do, your family will suffer. I cannot emphasize this strongly enough. Even if there is not a good father figure in the home, being actively involved in a strong church can fill in most of the gaps. This means attending every service and sitting near the front with your kids sitting next to you. ALL YOUR KIDS SIT WITH YOU ALL THE TIME. Do everything you can to ensure that your whole family gets the very most from every service (take notes, say “Amen” a lot, laugh and enjoy the worship, discuss the message later, do quiz questions, etc.), and NEVER allow a child to hear you speak negatively about the preacher.
Number three: home-school your children. Find some godly Christian families that home-school and start asking questions. The government schools are filled with worldly-minded teachers and students who will work overtime trying to tear down the righteous character that you build up in your children. Sending godly children to a government school is counterproductive and just plain stupid, at least when you have other choices. If home-schooling is not possible, then at least find a good church school.
If you will do those three things, you will be applying the greatest measures of sodomite and sissy prevention that you can apply. I could deal with specific preventative measures, like what to do if your son thinks he’s “gay,” but that isn’t likely to ever happen, if you follow the above advice. I could address the question of how to overcome homosexual temptations, but you will know how, if you follow the above advice. I could address the importance of Bible reading and prayer in your family life, but that will work itself out, if you follow the above advice. I could recommend Dr. Fluppingoozle’s latest book on the family, but you won’t need his book, if you follow the above advice. Laodicean “ministers” make fortunes by skipping those three essential points and then writing “how to” books for broken families. Your family doesn’t have to be broken! If you’ll follow those three simple points, you will be light years ahead of all your worldly peers (Ecc. 7:18). THAT is a promise. Plus, you will drastically decrease the chances of a sodomite ever wearing YOUR family name.